Tuesday, December 27, 2005

New Year's Resolutions?

I was never much one for resolutions when I was younger. I would look all around at all the people who said, "On January 1st I am going on a diet to lose 20 pounds," and I would see all those people "cheating" by sundown. Then, one year, on a lark, I wrote down 100 things I wanted to do in the new millennium. I don't know why, I just did. They ranged from the mundane (take up yoga again) to the insane (have another baby--um, that would make FOUR) to the seemingly impossible (sell my first novel).
Well . . . call it luck, fate, direction . . . by the end of that year, I had accomplished something like 22 things on the list. And my agent racked up, eventually, seventeen sales or something like that. Movie studios were routinely calling for first-looks at books. Things that seemed ludicrously extraordinary were becoming ordinary.
Thus began my process of writing down specific goals and treating January 1, as well as my birthday, as a contemplative time to figure out where I am and where I want to be. As a Buddhist, where I am is usually just fine. I'm always telling my kids to just be in the moment anyway. But I still dream and want to see places and I no longer think of any dream as out of reach.

4 Comments:

Blogger Mary Castillo said...

I'm glad that I'm not the only one who does this and sees results! Although for 2005, I wrote down that I would sell two books. I wrote two that didn't sell, but ended up selling two proposals. Oh yes and then I had a baby and now I'm not so sure how I'll finish these books on time.

Then again, sleep is overrated.

4:43 PM, December 27, 2005  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Hi Mary:
You know, I never thought that writing down goals made a difference (despite so many books and articles and so on saying it did), but I have to say it made a difference.
I had my fourth baby so I can relate on the lack of sleep thing. MAN, am I chronically tired. I am having a love affair with my coffee maker.

6:53 PM, December 28, 2005  
Blogger Karmela Johnson said...

All the self-help/motivational seminars I've ever been to have always emphasized the importance of writing goals in order to achieve them. So here to wit, I'm writing my one big goal for 2006:

I will increase my tolerance level for alcohol.

I've always been a lightweight, and I'm sick of getting drunk after half a beer. So for 2006, I will drink more.

11:23 AM, January 03, 2006  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Karm:
That was never my problem, as my friends will attest. I am now a very expensive date, as it would take me quite a few to get sloshed. ;-)
BUT . . . I have decided to go vegan. One of my kids has got a strange assortment of food allergies so he's basically a vegan at 10 months old, and I need to make a trip to Whole Foods to buy his foods . . . so I might as well go back to a macrobiotic eating plan or at least vegan. AND . . . sooner or later I have to take more seriously the Buddhist tenet of refraining from alcohol. I've always managed to sort of ignore that one.
:-)
E

7:40 PM, January 11, 2006  

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