S-E-X

I knew you'd like this post. :-)
With another shout-out to author Karmela Johnson, she reviewed Trace of Innocence on her website (I got an A!) and was bummed I didn't write a more explicit sex scene for my lead characters.
Here's the thing. I have no problem writing about sex, though, quite frankly, euphemisms are not my thing. I like to call a penis a . . . well, you get the idea. But to me S-E-X isn't about what's between the legs, but what's between the ears.
It's all dialogue.
Not dialogue as in talking dirty, though if the scene called for that, I'd write it. I mean dialogue as in the exchange between characters. To me, there is nothing sexier than two very intelligent people challenging each other intellectually before they fall into the sack.
I know erotic fiction is really "hot" in the romance market right now. I know people will always like to read a hot, passionate sex scene. But to me, it's all the intellectual foreplay. That's the best part.
Think of movies where this is the case. You know, what was it . . . Two Weeks Notice with Sandra Bullock and Hugh Grant? Not my typical flick (I hate romantic comedies . . . yes, I know I sometimes write them, but that doesn't mean I subject myself to them on film). But you know what? They bantered through that whole picture and only kissed at the end, and it was the equivalent of two hours of foreplay. Cute, funny, sexy foreplay.
In my books, I think Spanish Disco had the longest intellectual foreplay. I had a ball writing it that way, keeping them apart. For FIVE YEARS!
How about you? Like brainy S-E-X? Favorite film or book where that is accomplished?