Tuesday, February 27, 2007

All for Love

I don't do this job for the paycheck. 'Cause there isn't one. I mean, I get an advance check, parceled out over the course of writing my novel, royalties are give out twice a year. But there's no health insurance, no sick days, no pension . . . and it ain't steady. I support a family of six entirely as a writer. When I get optioned (such as Warner Brothers optioning Mafic Chic), that's extra. But mostly I do it because I love it. And because I'm too flaky to work in a real office.

Lately, three of my four kids have been gravitating toward wanting to do things when they grow up that will be unsteady, too. One wants to be a violinist, one wants to be in a band (not sure what instrument . . . he plays more than one). One wants to be a drummer. My son has long hair so I can't see his eyes, and my younger daughter has a penchant for wearing bright pink Chuck Taylor sneakers. Conformists they are not.

But I think, years ago, before kids were a reality, I probably would have thought kids should pick "safe" things. I went to school with peers who became doctors, lawyers, and CPAs. I'm the only eccentric who signed on for this gig. But now . . . now I just think it's really cool that my kids will likely be unemployed musicians and maybe writers (two of them are interested in writing). Because life is long (hopefully), and at the end, as I wrote in The Roofer, they staple your mouth shut, put you in a coffin and give you a send-off (except for me--cremation, no coffin, scattered to the wind, thanks). One trip through this life. So why the HELL would you want to get up each day and honor "the man" and work a job you hate so you can put in thirty years, retire, and die?

Thanks, but no thanks. I'll take this gig. I'll do it because I love it. I'll sweat the royalty checks and the deadlines, and work these weird hours. And my kids . . . maybe they will be in a rock band and out on the road playing in dives. But it's one journey through this existence. Do it for love.

Thoughts?
E

18 Comments:

Blogger May said...

I couldn't do it. It wouldn't be enough for me, not unless I was getting 6 figures a year. I need something to make up for the lack of stability, and enough money each year to put aside for rainy days is it.

I talked about why I was going to university to study economics awhile back on my blog. Another blogger, Jennette, blogged about the same thing, and she said that she needed the stability her dayjob provides her (in financial terms) to write, because she wouldn't be able to write if she was worrying about money all the time.

1:52 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Hi May:
I make those kinds of numbers . . . so in reality, I have the stability--but no benefits, and always the hustle. It's stability, but you can never quite count on it.

But I don't think I could do a day job. Maybe I feel that way because I have four kids so the realities of day care and so on would be overwhelming. But then again, if I didn't have the flexibility, maybe I wouldn't have four.

And some people . . . the pressure of needing to write to pay bills is a motivator. I don't know if I would feel motivated to write if I worked a cushy day job. All interesting things to ponder.

E

P.S. One thing I thought I could balance with writing was teaching.

2:05 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Jude Hardin said...

In the movie The Buddy Holly Story, Buddy's parents try to talk him into going to college so he'll "have something to fall back on."

"I'm not going to fall back," Buddy says.

And, of course, he didn't.

But, the sad truth is, most musicians do fail financially. Most writers fail. Most artists, etc.

I was a full-time musician once, and loved it, but I met a lot of guys and gals in their 30s and 40s still living with their parents and spending what little money they did make on booze and dope. "Doing what they loved."

When I first saw The Buddy Holly Story, I agreed with Buddy. Now that I'm older, I kind of agree with his parents. Sure, do what you love. But have something to fall back on. There will come a time in your life when it's just not cute anymore to be broke all the time.

Like Vincent says to Jules in Pulp Fiction: They call it being a bum.

I hate my "real" job, but I have a kid to support and I take that responsibility seriously. So, I'm doing it for love. Not the love of my job, but the love of my son.

But soon as I get that seven-figure advance, by golly, I'm quitting. :)

3:17 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Michele said...

Hallelujah on working a job you love and not having to punch in 9-to-5. But I don't make six figures, and retirement scares me. Not that I'll ever retire from writing, but the hubby will retire, and we live on his income, basically. But no savings.
But I don't think about it. I'm happy right now, so I'm just running with it.
Michele

4:23 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Jude:
I guess for me, there's got to be some compromise between doing some soul-sucking job you hate and being broke. For instance, when I was first freelance reporting, years ago, I also waited tables and bartended. I wasn't broke. I just didn't do the 9 to 5 thing.

E

5:33 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Hi Michele:
I have no one to fall back on . . . and four kids to get through college. Believe me, it scares me some days.
E

5:34 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Jude Hardin said...

Erica:
Yeah, there are days when I feel as though my soul has been sucked dry. You're right. There does need to be some sort of compromise between being soul-sucked and being broke. Of course, I wasn't all that happy back when I was slinging margaritas either, and I was making a lot less money.

I just need to sell a book, eh?

6:21 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Jude:
Most writers who make a living as writers aren't rolling in it. We're doing what we love, making a living--but most aren't athte Grisham/Patterson/King level. So it's a myth that selling a book solves anything. It's validation of your path . . . but beyond that, not usually something you can quit your day job with--especially in the publishing climate today.

E

6:33 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Jude Hardin said...

I know. I was being facetious. Like my seven-figure advance remark. ;)

Most writers don't earn enough to feed their cats. So I would say you're in the top 10% there, Orloff.

7:09 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Karmela Johnson said...

E, I too am incredibly supportive of my children if they wanted a career in the very unsteady world of the arts, which is a complete departure for someone in my Asian background. My parents pushed me into the sciences and maths even though they knew that I was more into the creative side of things. I rebelled, but some of their teachings stuck with me. So even though I'm in a creative field, it's in the safety of a day job and I do the writing and fitness instructing as side gigs.

I blame my parents for my inability to completely break free of the day job, but I won't make the same mistake. If DD and DS want to be rock stars, I'll be in the front row of their concerts. Hell, I'll do the choreography for their backup dancers.

8:53 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Jude Hardin said...

I would also support and encourage anything my son wanted to do, including a career in the arts. But I would also encourage him to get a college degree.

If you're into music, study music. An actor, drama. A writer, English. Get a law degree and be the next John Grisham. Get an M.D. and be the next Tess Gerritsen.

That way, when the bestselling author or rock star thing doesn't work out, you can always support youself. Teaching, or whatever. T.S. Eliot worked at a bank, for chrissake.

I think one of the best things we can teach our kids is independence.

They shouldn't still be sponging off mommy and daddy when they're 40, IMO.

9:23 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Jude:
Hate to argue, but there is a BIG difference between sponging and not having a steady gig. Like I said, I was a single mother waitress/writer. NEVER asked my parents for a DIME. EVER. Even if it had meant losing my house, I wouldn't have. They WOULD have helped me, but I never would have asked. Period. So I don't see the rigid way you look at it. I don't disagree with education, but just because you don't become an M.D./author doesn't mean you'll be a slob/sponge. It's just WAY too narrow a way to look at it. I have a LOT of friends who are writers/artists/editors/dancers. None of them that I can think of right now ask anyone for help. They may work as bouncers, hairdressers, and even one friend worked as a callgirl, on the side until they hit it . . . but they didn't become deadbeats.
E

9:47 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Karm:
Rock on. We'll be in the front row together.
E

9:47 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Jude Hardin said...

Erica:

That's okay. I love a good debate. :)

Didn't your parents encourage you to get a college degree? Didn't you make a living in publishing long before you became a full-time novelist?

I'm not being rigid. I believe people should follow their dreams as much as you do. Lord knows that's what I want to do. You're absolutely right. Life is too short to do something you hate.

But, does following your dream mean quitting school when you're sixteen and hitching a ride to Hollywood? Scoring some *extra* gigs for $50 a day and then resorting to porn when you can't pay the bill at The Roach Motel on Sunset? I guess that works out sometimes. Does following your dream mean playing guitar in clubs on weekends while Mom washes your underwear and Dad blows a gasket when you sneak that cute little bar slut up to your room? I guess that works out sometimes. Does following your dream mean selling dope on the side so you can pay to have cheese on your next Quarter-Pounder and at the same time keep up with your own stash because, by God, you NEED that shit? I guess that works out sometimes.

These are some of the people I've known.

I've worked in bars and restaurants too. I've been a road musician. I've walked among the absolute LOSERS of this world, many of them with talents far greater than you or I have. Why the fuck didn't they "make" it? What happened? Why are they driving a cab now, at the age of 50?

Here's what they didn't have: Parents who taught them how to live responsibly. Parents so involved in their own day-to-day shit that they totally lost track until Junior turned 20 and had no education, no skills other than those of his "dream." Junior can play guitar as good as Eddie Van Halen. Guess what? So can a million other Juniors. Junior can draw a perfect picture of a Jaguar in a tree. Guess what?

Enough said. I would never discourage anyone from following their dream. At the same time, I WOULD encourage anyone to get as much education as they can and develop as many skills as they can. Never know when those skills and that piece of paper might come in handy.

Maybe you haven't run across as many deadbeats as I have. Maybe you haven't made friends with them.

Believe me, they're out there. In great numbers.

I just don't want my kid to be one of them.

He can follow his dream, and I'll be the biggest cheerleader in the world.

But I'll still encourage him to have something to "fall back on."

If he ignores me, that's his choice. I'll love him and support him regardless, but I think it's my duty as a parent--as a grownup--to warn him about the pitfalls.

It's easy to say "follow your dream."

Much harder to discuss the realities.

I'm a realist.

11:11 PM, February 27, 2007  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Hi Jude:
You make valid points. I just think, still, there is a vast gap between "become a lawyer to fall back on if the writer thing doesn't work out" and "deal dope to support yourself." That is a HUGE slippery slope no matter how poetically you put it.

E

6:50 AM, February 28, 2007  
Blogger Jude Hardin said...

Hi Erica:

True enough.

Then, of course, you have your lawyers who deal dope on the side... ;)

7:33 AM, February 28, 2007  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Also . . . you wrote:

I've worked in bars and restaurants too. I've been a road musician. I've walked among the absolute LOSERS of this world, many of them with talents far greater than you or I have. Why the fuck didn't they "make" it? What happened? Why are they driving a cab now, at the age of 50?


You and I have different definitions of loser. If someone TRULY is so talented but hasn't gotten their break yet--but is happily playing gigs and driving a cab, I don't know why that means they are a loser over some money-grubbing person who sold out to the man for thirty years and has material wealth.

7:43 AM, February 28, 2007  
Blogger Jude Hardin said...

Good point. I respect anyone who earns an honest living, no matter the job. I would never call anyone a loser just because of the work they do or because they are low-income. If you're doing what makes you happy, then that's everything.

The ones I call losers are the ones who get caught up in certain lifestyles, downward spirals, and then end up hurting everyone in their path because of it. I see them all the time at the hospital, and I've known my share in my personal life.

It was not my intention to antagonize you here, Erica. Sorry if I did that.

8:33 AM, February 28, 2007  

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