Tricked!
My parents tricked me.
They did.
I am a lifelong reader, a lover of words. I don't like books on a laptop screen, or anything other than a BOOK. I love to crack the spine, to CURL up with it. I love everything about it. You all know I don't read fiction, but read memoirs and physics . . . and math biographies, in particular. I am STILL waiting for my dear pal, Stephen Parrish to post the story of his attending a Paul Erdos lecture (Erdos being my favorite mathematician). But anyway, I love books.
How did I get to be such a book lover? Trickery.
My parents used to set a ridiculously early bedtime. I mean, it was still light out. In summer, I could HEAR everyone still playing. But I had bedtime.
EXCEPT . . . "IF you want to read."
If I wanted to read, I could stay up a whole hour later. And considering my parents were so happy I was reading, I also knew I could cajole, "Just one more chapter" out of them and extend it longer. Considering I could NEVER fall asleep when it was still light out, I read every night. Trickery. Because that, obviously, was their evil Machiavellian plan all along.
But there was worse trickery in our house.
Like the books I got to read. I read every, single Nancy Drew ever. But my father was convinced I could read WAY above my grade. So, with a great deal of pomp and circumstance, I received this book in 3rd grade. I recently picked it up again . . . it's HARD. But I managed to get through it. This started a reading list, before age 9, of Pride and Prejudice, an unabridged Sherlock Holmes, A Tale of Two Cities, Robinson Crusoe, and dozens of others. What was especially clever? Making it seem like a big damn deal that I was "smart enough to handle" reading such lofty books.
Trickery.
And finally? I had to read an entire newspaper. Every day. And by 3rd grade, I was told I could read this paper if I wanted to, for fun. But I HAD to read this one. Including the magazine on Sunday.
My parents didn't "edit" the newspaper. There was nothing I couldn't read. Why can I discuss politics and policy? Why do I know a great deal about the world at large? Part of it was that paper growing up. I can't say I loved reading it. It was huge and unwieldy. The ink got on my fingertips. "But that's part of its charm" my dad said, and taught me how NYC commuters properly folded the paper in fours so they could read it on the train.
I was tricked. Simply put. I was tricked into being educated, into being a reader. I was told that reading meant the ENTIRE world was yours. Nothing--no part of education or intelligence could be held back from you if you could read.
Shortly thereafter, they began to encourage me to write. Because the pen is mightier than the sword, I was told. If you can write, my father said, you can do anything.
More trickery.
How about you? Did anyone in your life encourage you to be a reader? A writer?
They did.
I am a lifelong reader, a lover of words. I don't like books on a laptop screen, or anything other than a BOOK. I love to crack the spine, to CURL up with it. I love everything about it. You all know I don't read fiction, but read memoirs and physics . . . and math biographies, in particular. I am STILL waiting for my dear pal, Stephen Parrish to post the story of his attending a Paul Erdos lecture (Erdos being my favorite mathematician). But anyway, I love books.
How did I get to be such a book lover? Trickery.
My parents used to set a ridiculously early bedtime. I mean, it was still light out. In summer, I could HEAR everyone still playing. But I had bedtime.
EXCEPT . . . "IF you want to read."
If I wanted to read, I could stay up a whole hour later. And considering my parents were so happy I was reading, I also knew I could cajole, "Just one more chapter" out of them and extend it longer. Considering I could NEVER fall asleep when it was still light out, I read every night. Trickery. Because that, obviously, was their evil Machiavellian plan all along.
But there was worse trickery in our house.
Like the books I got to read. I read every, single Nancy Drew ever. But my father was convinced I could read WAY above my grade. So, with a great deal of pomp and circumstance, I received this book in 3rd grade. I recently picked it up again . . . it's HARD. But I managed to get through it. This started a reading list, before age 9, of Pride and Prejudice, an unabridged Sherlock Holmes, A Tale of Two Cities, Robinson Crusoe, and dozens of others. What was especially clever? Making it seem like a big damn deal that I was "smart enough to handle" reading such lofty books.
Trickery.
And finally? I had to read an entire newspaper. Every day. And by 3rd grade, I was told I could read this paper if I wanted to, for fun. But I HAD to read this one. Including the magazine on Sunday.
My parents didn't "edit" the newspaper. There was nothing I couldn't read. Why can I discuss politics and policy? Why do I know a great deal about the world at large? Part of it was that paper growing up. I can't say I loved reading it. It was huge and unwieldy. The ink got on my fingertips. "But that's part of its charm" my dad said, and taught me how NYC commuters properly folded the paper in fours so they could read it on the train.
I was tricked. Simply put. I was tricked into being educated, into being a reader. I was told that reading meant the ENTIRE world was yours. Nothing--no part of education or intelligence could be held back from you if you could read.
Shortly thereafter, they began to encourage me to write. Because the pen is mightier than the sword, I was told. If you can write, my father said, you can do anything.
More trickery.
How about you? Did anyone in your life encourage you to be a reader? A writer?
Labels: childhood books, newspapers, reading


25 Comments:
I just loved it. My dad read all the time, so I did I. I used to do the flashlight under the covers thing, and read like two or three hours every night. I read 2 - 3 books every night for most of my childhood.
Our local library had all the classics in the children's section. That was trickery! How did I know Jane Eyre and Dickens and Crime and Punishment weren't children's books? I wasn't allowed in the young adult section until fourth or fifth grade, LOL.
It was weird, because they didn't have the classics in the young adult section. I'm forever grateful, though.
Erica, I LOVED this story. Loved it. Especially the part about your parents allowing you to stay up an hour later if you were reading. I am stealing that one when we have kids, because it is absolutely brilliant, and so like something I would do. (When I was teaching English, I employed similar trickery to encourage my students to read or write extra. In the schools I taught at, I was famous for getting students to read like no one else. The librarians loved me for that.) So, yes, I'm stealing it. Or, if you prefer, borrowing...
As for how I became a reader, I answered that one on my blog about a week ago, and I'm guessing you've already seen that one. But my parents got me started with a copy of Goodnight Moon, and my school librarians, RIF, Scholastic catalogues, teachers who read aloud to us (even in middle school) and many wonderful authors made me the reader I am today.
I spent my summer afternoons reading rather than playing. It never occurred to me there was anything odd about that until my grandmother visited and scolded me: "Look at how nice it is outside! A boy your age should be out there with his friends instead of in here cooped up with a book."
I tell my twelve-year-old she can stay up as late as she wants as long as she's reading. Sometimes I poke my head in her room and say, "It's getting late, honey." She holds up her book and says, "Yeah, so?"
My mother was a reader and a writer, still is. She never told me I had to read, she never read me children's stories... instead I had Annabelle Lee by Edgar Allen Poe memorized by the age of six... really not a poem a six year old should know, but it's still one of my favorites - other people memorized Doctor Suess (who I also love).
I really believe kids pick up a love of reading more from seeing their parents and adults around them being active readers, than from being read to... Now, I read to my kids all the time (partially, because I like the time with them and partly because I like the stories...) but I think they'll pick up the reading bug because it's inevitable in a house with so many books and a mother who has to be pulled out of them now and again to get the daily life stuff done...
I am trying your parents' trick of later bedtimes for reading with my daughter... she is a night owl, so I know it'll work... and she reads, but not great literature, instead she brings home Calvin and Hobbes and Diary of a Whimpy Kid... she also likes encyclopedias and forensic science books (seriously don't know where that itch came from.. the kid sneaks in to try and watch law and order when I'm not looking)...
In the early 60's when we lived in Germany (I was there when the wall went up), there wasn't any TV. So, during the day I'd be out playing with my friends in the many ruins that still abounded from the war...or playing with my German friends. On rainy days or at night, there were books.
I read "War and Peace" and "The Brother's Karamazov" before 7th grade.
My eldest daughter tried to beat that record, but got bogged down with "social" activities...she's still trying to get remotivated for "Brothers", but finished "War and Peace" in 8th grade. When she was in elementary school, we actually had to take books away at night to get her to go to sleep...she's impossible to wake up in the morning.
Hi Spy:
I used to get taken to the library by my mom, sign out the "limit" (whatever it was . . . six books or so). And then be BEGGING to go back on Sunday--when it was closed. My childhood was very much about books.
Booklady:
I loved your blog about it. And i also remember RIF. The whole idea of FREE books!?!?!
E
stephen:
LOL on her reaction. You have a reader there!
E
merry:
I agree. My mom was a reader--still is. A book a day most times, or close to it. So I grew up seeing her reading, and her nose was always in a book--and they were big, thick "adult" books that I coveted and aspired to.
E
Hi jlk:
My mom used to make me go outside and ride my bike once in a while when the weather was nice, but pretty much, like Stephen, I much preferred staying in and reading.
E
My mother read to us when she was young, and she was a huge reader herself. I remember reading her books when I was eight years old. She never censored my reading either. But she didn't need to trick me or my younger brother. We were natural readers. My older sister and brother weren't big readers, and my mother didn't push them. My younger sister was in-between. Sometimes she'd pick up a book and read. She still does. :)
Hi Edie:
I remember my parents reading Grimm's Fairytales to me when I was too young to read.
E
My parents used to read aloud to each other in the living room after dinner, and I remember always thinking of it as the truest form of love. When my boyfriend said to me, a few months into our relationship, "Can I read something to you for a sec?" I said, "YES! YES!"
melissa:
LOVE that. I love reading aloud to people. :-) That was actually one of the coolest things about hearing my books on audiotape the first time!
ha ha, I used that "let 'em stay up past bedtime" trick on my kids too. Worked like a charm. Both good students and avid readers. (not to mention excellent writers)
I also used to read until the really good part...then yawn and said I was too tired to go on. I'd hand them the book and say, "You can finish it if you want to."
;)
How did I get to be a good reader? I had two older brothers who were terrorists in training. They tormented me so I hid in my room with my books. Or running out of things to read, I wrote my own stories.
Theres nothing better then cracking the spine on a book full of promise.
Hi Aimless:
LOL! I love your tricks!!!
My oldest is 17--she went through a non-reading stage. Now she is a voracious reader, so thank God, what I did in childhood somewhat stuck.
E
Hey Erica, I did the same thing with my girls and you gave me an AH moment here. I thought I was giving them a really great treat by letting them read. LOL. But, they didn't have a too early bedtime, but I did factor the reading time in when it was bedtime. While they read, I read. I'm thrilled to report, they're great women today, and love to read...and the grandkids too! YAY for reading!!!!!
Oh, RIF was the BEST! I can't believe they've cut out the funding for it. How could the first lady let him do that? It made such a difference in so many people's lives.
ladonna:
Doesn't surprise me you have reading family! :-)
booklady:
I remember RIF well. As for the administration . . .I was on the "front lines" of working with unwed teen mothers through a federal program to help their parenting. We lost funding. I saw people lose their food stamps. Lose housing allowances. Foster kids get shoved out of the system at 18 with no housing. It sucks.
E
Wow, I love this!!!
I always loved to read, too. If I was good, my "treat" would be to go to the library and get X number of books. Being a smooth talker*, I was usually able to round X up to at least 2 or 3 more books than initially allowed...
*am now wondering if I wasn't a smooth talker after all...
erica:
LOL! I love that . . . maybe you WEREN'T such a smooth talker. ;-)
E
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