Sunday, October 05, 2008

Make It Count

Mark Terry commented here on my blog the other day under the So You Want to Be a Writer post. Like many of Mark's comments, it was brilliant, so it got picked up over here, in its entirety on Stephen's blog as a post unto itself. And really? That ass in chair thing? True. To which I might add . . . make it count.

I write every day, sort of. I might write on my blog and then have my day explode into a cosmic clusterf*ck of Demon Baby exploits and nuclear destruction, chauffeuring duties for children, and overseing projects like Baby's Girl's French poster. Oh, and phone calls, laundry, dinner, and general cleaning up of mayhem caused by the very short little fellow who seems to believe that joy is exponentially related to how much mess you make--and he might well be right. But give the kid Play-do, and I will be combing it out of dog fur for weeks.

But . . . even if I don't write every day in the way that those without four kids or those whose kids are all in school write . . . there is a weekly output that is significant. At the end of the week, I have something to show for the fact that I write fiction. Pages, chapters, something.

Once a proposal or submission goes to my agent, the next "something" is already multiple chapters into writing. Has to be. I don't have time to ponder, I don't have time to fret over whether it will sell or not. I'm just too busy working.

And thus, after reading Mark's comments the other day, I realized that Demon Baby has taught me a lot of things. He has taught me the meaning of the word craptastic. He's taught me that most of the little aches and pains in life can be solved with a blue ice pop (but not red, pink or purple). But most of all, he has taught me to make it count. People with day jobs, if they are going to write fiction too--probably learn the same lesson . . . or fail. It's like any athlete who streamlines a workout, or musician who has their practice routine down to a science. Somewhere along the way, those who are successful learn that in any given workout or routine, there is x amount of time you can waste and then you better make it count. It's not just ass in chair, but what you are really doing in that chair that can make or break you. With each book or manuscript if you didn't learn what doomed the last one? Then you might as well sit in the chair and take a nap.

People ask me all the time, "How do you do it?" I don't. Not successfully. My house isn't neat, my laundry's not folded as of this writing, and there is a questionable bit of mold growing on some cheese in my fridge. But when I write, it counts. It has to. My life too easily blows up. Every minute of writing has to count. I've learned to separate the vanity of saying "I'm a writer" and thinking that I have time to meander my way through rewrite after rewrite after rewrite after big thought after big thought. And replace it with a working mentality. I have to make it count. Each day, every day, day in and day out, month after month, and gulp . . . year after year. My Writers' Cramp group has been in existence 15 years now. I've never (I don't think) missed a meeting. Maybe once or twice. But even after giving birth to the Demon . . . two weeks later, I was there, breastfeeding while critiquing. I've gone to group sick, tired, depressed, angry, fretful, happy, worried, REALLY tired (did I mention tired) and always . . . with pages.

So what are you doing to make it count each day? And if you need help, I will happily Fed Ex you the Demon Baby so that you, too, can learn to make it count.

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26 Comments:

Blogger Amy Nathan said...

It took life events to make me make it all count - and luckily that was years ago and I've never looked back with regret. Sometimes just knowing that you did it wrong is enough - who the hell needs to go there again?

I spend my days, my time, my energy for life value. What adds value (and you know I don't mean dollars and cents) to my life. When I question why I write, that's the answer. It adds value. When I question why I leave the laundry to watch Hannah Montana with my daughter (and I do)- it adds value. Same goes for blogging. Same goes for learning to love baseball so that I share it with my son. Each friend adds value, or frankly, I don't bother.

I don't do it all either, Erica, but what I do, I try to do well.

We must have been on the same wavelength because last night I posted about "why are we here," meaning on the world wide web in a community of writers. And yes, it adds value.

9:02 AM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Sarah Laurenson said...

Awaiting my special package...

9:16 AM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Edie said...

Is having a Demon Baby around a necessity? Will a dog that wants to go out and then back in, making you run up and down the stairs twenty times a day, do?

Erica, I wish your way was my way. This morning I woke up thinking about my book, and I know from past experience I'm on a roll. I'll probably write 5-15 pages a day until it's done. But I was floundering for the past couple weeks before I got to this point. So I guess that's my process. Craptastic mixed with joytastic.

9:43 AM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Mark Terry said...

Blush, blush.

But really, I started writing in college where I was majoring in microbiology. I didn't have time. So I said, "Treat it the way you did piano and sax practice." That is, 30 minutes a day. So when I looked at the clock and sat down at the typewriter (yes, typewriter), I had 30 minutes. Period. Not going over. And what that taught me/trained me, was to crank it out. You have 30 minutes to accomplish something, you focus.

Now that I write full-time I'm just as inclined as anyone to dick around (maybe more so), but I do understand that when I actually am putting words down (versus sending emails, calling to set up interviews, interviewing, transcribing interviews, running to the credit union, buying office supplies, surfing the web, doing research, etc) that it's important that I GET IT DONE.

Learn that lesson well, folks. It's an important one.

Craptastic. I like that.

10:38 AM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Robin said...

In my life, in order to get everything done and enjoy my family (which is just as important in my book), I have to let a lot of things slide. Laundry, cleaning the kitchen, and most chores get put aside to "when I can get to them".

Yesterday, while the boys were doing homework, I went for a bikeride to the mall. I checked at Borders Express to make sure they were stocking my book. (It keeps selling out - yay!) I arranged to sit at a table in front of the store on Oct 18 and sign books at the mall. Bike ride, errands, arranging book signing. Ha! How's that for making it count? :)

10:56 AM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Aimless Writer said...

I think I'll put a seatbelt on my chair...lately....not so good at the ass in chair thingy.

11:43 AM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Stephen Parrish said...

Like many of Mark's comments, it was brilliant, so it got picked up

Lots of brilliant stuff pops up in this neck of the woods. Hell, even Jude comes up with a nugget now and then.

11:48 AM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger spyscribbler said...

I loved that comment and the post at Stephen's blog!

I have no problem with ass in chair. My problem is mind on matter. Particularly these past two weeks with the economy and the election. It's so sad. I mean, I don't even bring the subject up, it's totally not just me. I'm standing in line at the grocery store and the clerk who's worked there for 15 years is telling me she can't make a living wage on $7 an hour anymore. (No kidding!)

It's so true. I feel so much for what's happening right now. Everything has doubled in the past ten years. Minimum wage sure hasn't. What are we doing? We're shoving that clerk from middle class into poor with no health insurance. It's killing me.

(See? I can't even keep my comments focused on writing!)

12:01 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger spyscribbler said...

What a ridiculous thing to say. I mean, it's killing her.

I am so self-absorbed, sometimes, sheesh!

12:02 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Hi Amy:
The make-in-count lesson is one I learn over and over and over again, and each time I am grateful.

E

12:42 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Sarah:
Perhaps you are . . . but is your wife ready for him? LOL!
E

12:42 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

edie:
I think floundering is OK. I often flouder. And I am often on a roll. I think the key is to make even floudering count by getting in there and ripping up what's not working.

And no, a Demon Baby isn't necessary. He just makes me live life on the dge of a precipice. A demanding dog can do the same. ;-)
E

12:43 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Mark:
Amen.

E

12:44 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

aimless:
Seatbelt . . . Demon Baby. Take your pick. Maybe a seatbelt FOR the Demon Baby.

E

12:44 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

robin:
In this modern age, I think we all strive to balance family with work, and most of the times we fail, but as long as we're trying and loving our families passionately . . . it all works out in the end.

Hope your signing went well!
E

12:45 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

stephen:
What can I say . . . I have brilliant friends. ;-)

E

12:45 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

spy,

I am SO there with ya. The finances are a constant worry point around here. And the grocery bill. And the fact that oldest son eats a remarkable amount of food as a teenager!

E

12:46 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Suzanne Perazzini said...

Discipline is the beginning and end of trying to make writing into a career. I have a very fulltime job and a family so my writing time is precious and must be used wisely. Hence my not commenting in here every day even though this is my favorite blog.
I write every day without fail even if it's only a page. Discipline is the key.

2:45 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Hi Suzanne:
I agree with you 100%--making every moment of writing count doesn't mean that you churn out tons, but that you keep focused.

E

P.S So glad you like the blog!

3:40 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Sarah Laurenson said...

Alas my wife has her own little demon baby - her min-pin mix who has all the endearing traits of her ex. If he wasn't so cute, we would have to kill him. ;-)

4:35 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

sarah:
LOL! My brother-in-law has one. It's the only dog that has ever tried to bite me!

E

4:41 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Jude Hardin said...

Hell, even Jude comes up with a nugget now and then.

I got your nugget right here, bud. ;)

Very thought-provoking post, Erica. I'm reminded of this riveting scene from the movie Papillon. That's what we all want to avoid, isn't it? A wasted life.

But here's the thing about writing, or any creative endeavor: if you're doing it on spec, with the odds of ever "making it" stacked enormously against you, then you're basically running on faith (or delusion, in some cases). You start wondering sometimes if your time might be better spent doing something else. I'm sure the thought has crossed every writer's mind--especially those of us committed to the biggie, the novel, where months and even years can be spent on a single project, a project that will likely end up in a drawer and then on some future rubbish pile when we catch the final bus home.

Why bother? Why waste another minute of your precious time?

If you're a writer, you already know the answer. If you're not, you've probably already given up.

5:57 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Zoe Winters said...

hahaha you say "questionable mold" on the cheese, like there is a chance it's Penicillin you can use later. :P

And I totally agree with the Demon Baby on the blue ice pop thing.

As obvious in my blog lately (I get very OCD about blog topics, lol.), I've changed my focus a lot, because I was losing my joy for writing by "chasing the dream."

I just want to write and get it out there. Sure I'm not going to be fiscally goofy about the whole thing, but I sometimes think I'm speaking Cambodian lol.

6:36 PM, October 05, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

Jude:
A nugget indeed.
E

7:18 AM, October 06, 2008  
Blogger Erica Orloff said...

zoe:
Having spent five years tutoring Cambodian refugees as their volunteer English teacher . . . no, you are not speaking Cambodian. ;-)
E

7:19 AM, October 06, 2008  
Blogger Zoe Winters said...

bwahahahahahaha. You crack me up!

4:14 PM, October 06, 2008  

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